Deciding who you want to invite to your wedding is stressful, right! This can be even more stressful if you plan to have an intimate affair or a micro-wedding, (which is becoming the norm these days). There are so many people from every stage of your life as well as your partner’s, who are important. So, who do you choose? Consider this, Not everyone will be able to make it. This is where that all-important ‘B’ list comes into play.
When you need to create a second guest list, it’s important to tread carefully, which is why I have put together a list of dos and don’ts.
1. Do Start Early
The sooner you can make an ‘A’ and ‘B’ list, the better. If your family is planning to invite guests of their own, give them a firm deadline for those names. Being able to finalize your ‘A’ list by getting RSVPs early on will ensure you’re not inviting anyone from your ‘B’ list too late in the game.
Aim to send your invites at least 8 – 10 weeks before the wedding if you have a second guest list. This gives you more time to ensure you’re not hurting anyone’s feelings. I also highly recommend that you use digital RSVPs to speed up the process. If you do plan to print your RSVP cards, make sure there is a batch with a later RSVP date – you don’t want someone on your ‘B’ list receiving a card with an RSVP date that’s passed.
2. Don’t Tell Everyone About Your Guest List
When you’re dealing with a ‘B’ list, it’s best to keep your guest list a secret until further notice. You never know who might let their wedding invite slip to the wrong person at the wrong time, leaving you in an awkward position. The only people you need to discuss your guest list with is your wedding planner, family, and bridal party. Just make sure they are aware that there’s a ‘B’ list and that mums the word.
3. Do Sort Your ‘B’ List
It really helps to know which people on your ‘B’ list you would prefer to have at your wedding by placing them at the top of the list. This way, once guests start falling off your ‘A’ list, you know who to send an invite to first.
By keeping these simple dos and don’ts in mind, you can avoid any guest list awkwardness as you plan your wedding.